Hi my names mandy im 33 years old from liverpool england. Id like to share my experience with a narcassist friend who ive known for 7 years. Its only recently ive found out what she is (the devil in disguise). Ive always known there was something wrong from her actions, lies, back stabbing, promiscuity and obsession with herself, she always has to be the centre of attention regardless of who its from positive or negative it does'nt matter because she was in the lime light. Men is all she was interested in and she'd sleep with any one who showed her attention, im not the type of person to agree with things if i dont think its right so on occasions i did put her straight and she didnt like it, just changed the subject back to her as she obviously doesnt want to hear she is in the wrong coz shes perfect she cant do no wrong in her eyes (as the devil). She has me on the phone for hours me me me me me blardy blardy blar all i can hear from her gob is im a selfish bitch blar blar. Shes taken everythin from me without me realising it, ive lost all my friends coz i werent allowed other friends why would i need them when i had her (is what she told me) i was scared to upset her as i didnt want to lose her friendship (which never ever existed) i though she was the be all and end all she was all i needed, i was happy when i was with her it got to the point the only time i went out was with her so i felt as though i had to keep pleasing her beacsue if i upset her and lost her friendship who would i go out with? I didnt realise this was her plan in the first place. Before i met her i had confidence not a lot but a bit i went out didnt care about me weight or what i looked like and now i wont go out i do my shopping online my curtains dont get opened and im on anti depressants and attended cognitive therapy none of which have worked to make me go out and do things.  I was happy and talkative and use to be the life and soul of the party but now i dont wanna go out talk to people not even on the phone, my curtains dont get opened, she has taken my identity away right from under my nose, how could i have been so stupid? why didnt i do my research sooner? i could kick myself, NOT ONLY HAVE I SUFFERED BUT MY CHILDREN HAVE TOO. She is perfect to everyone on social media everyone loves her for her lies and false charm, she can be nice face to face to anyone wont let no one see the real her and after speaking to someone be inboxing talking about that very same person shes just been lovely too. She plays people against each other so they fall out and fight when shes the problem shes the one who is doing and saying nasty things but through the people (friends, family ) she has chosen, she never wants anyone to think she is bitchy or false. She comes across as tho shes got loads of money has the perfect life buying nice things all for herself of course her kids dont get nothing and when they do which is not very often its all over social media so she looks like the good parent shes not. She then goes on her daughters facebook and rights a status about how amazing her mum is taggin herself init and to on lookers they think awww isnt she a lovely mum, windes me up makes me sick but im the just the jealous ex friend gggrrr so frustrating. She has everybody doing things for her, her poor mum works full time even nights and she will get her up from bed to do the shopping or to take the kids to school or to cook the dinner she doesnt and cant do anything herself. Shes horrible to her kids their walking round in clothes that i wouldnt put on mine for bed, while shes walking round in named classy stuff but agian all this is for her self obsessed image infront of other people as we all no all she cares about is herself. She name calls her children, she puts them down, calls them names to make them self conscious of themselves (fat cunt, big eared cunt, ugly rat) shes horrible the list is endless shes a bully but only to people who she nos wont stand up to her. She can never ever be alone how would she cope who would do this who would that who would pay her attention which is the only thing that makes her happy. In her relationship she cheats on partners to the point of being a dirty whore, shes had them in toilets, entries, cheap hotels, her boyfriends bed sometimes more than one each night and this is while her kids are there too. How can people who live with her an who have known her for longer than not have seen what she is? it makes me look like a crank like im going insane and to be honest i feel it some times and question my own sanity. and not having people believe you makes it even worse. She tries to make people jealous with other people by ignoring you and status to get you to react which i do coz she gets on my nerves coz i no the game shes playing, her life is one big game. These people have no feelings they dont care if your hurting or if theyve upset you all they care about is themselves. I feel much better the last few days just for knowing the truth coz now i no she was never my friend so i have lost nothing and her new victims are gonna go through the same things i have just like the people before me, she only has one victim at a time until they do or say something she doesnt like and then she,ll find another. Its hard to put everything in writing and to fully understand it unless you have lived it. I so badly want revenge i cant let her get away with what she has put me through all these years, her poor kids are still going through it shes violent to them aswell i dont no what to do, should i report her? even tho shes horrible to her kids they wont say a bad word to anyone about her so sad. Im goin to game play coz i havent totally forgotten her yet as we have a holiday booked in 3 weeks time after that i am gonna make sure everyone knows what she is i just hope i dont look like the one who needs psychiatric help :) please reply to me if youve gone through similar experiences it would be nice to hear other stories thanks mandy xx
my email address mandywhite08@hotmail.com